I'm wondering how you feel about that." Since your teens are also likely dating, it is important to talk with them about how it may be awkward to have a parent dating at the same time. How will my children be affected by my decision to date?
It is also critical that you remain in the role of parent and not turn into your child's best friend where you each gush about your new girl or boyfriend. Every child will react in his or her own way to a parent's dating after the divorce.
This is obviously a very personal decision with no one right answer.
Know yourself, know your children and ask yourself this key question: Is this a decision I think is best for my children, or am I reacting out of guilt or fear?
If you're feeling adventurous, take a stroll through a sex shop. The only rule is to respect your limits, and those of your partner. Your ex may make Attila the Hun look like a nice guy, but don't disparage him over cocktails.
Early- stage dating is about fun, not a therapy session. If you're on the shy side, loosen up with dirty talk.If you need a reminder about what to expect at each developmental stage have a look here When talking with young children (infants and toddlers) describe the person you are seeing as a friend. I'll be back soon."With preschoolers (ages 3-5) still describe the person you will be going out with as as friend. You will likely want to have a more in-depth conversation about dating.For example, "I'm going to have dinner with a man/woman that I met at work.The idea of getting back into the dating scene after years being married is daunting at best.But, we humans are instinctively drawn to partnering up.