He may worry that you won’t think him confident or attractive enough.____Men like that have been programmed to believe that they finish last. Pay attention to the men who respect your limits and look for the ones who don’t use sex talk to get your attention. That crowd may be smaller and quieter but it sounds like it’s there that you will find what you’re looking for. I know it seems like the prize of this hunt and chase should be your affection and a fabulous relationship, but it doesn’t work like that.
In your past relationships, could you tell if things were “going to work” after one date?
But let’s pretend it hasn’t, just for shits and giggles. All I’m saying is, if you like him and he likes you, then I don’t see a reason why you shouldn’t go for it if the mood is right. And if it wasn’t ever there to begin with and you were just doing him because you were bored and it was Wednesday then maybe you are the town whore and you should seek help. Stop beating yourself up about it and be happy that you learned something more about yourself through the process. From my extensive focus groups on this topic (eavesdropping on people at Starbucks on Sunday mornings), I’d say outlook not so good, better ask again later.
So now you’re worried that he won’t call you, that he doesn’t respect you, that he thinks you may be the town whore and he should head for the hills before the red light above your door burns out. The sex will be passionate—or maybe it’ll be shitty and you’ll know whether you want to move forward with the relationship. The straight woman’s perspective: Rebecca Brown Standing in today for Rebecca is Magic 8-ball. I do know of one couple who’s been happily married for several years, and they had sex on the first date.
Whether you’ve slept with the guy or not, it’s too soon to tell where it will go from here.
It seems to me that you’re feeling remorse or guilt about jumping into bed with this guy on date one.