When you first begin to push for a first date within hours of getting a response from a women, you may start to feel uneasy. Learn not to take rejections or flaky behaviour personally. You can use another messaging tool, but I prefer Whatsapp.At this point you are probably wondering why bother moving her to another messaging system.The scenario: “One time I was messaging back and forth with a guy for two weeks and having a great conversation, but he was taking too long to ask me out, so I stopped talking to him.” — Kelly, 32The problem..the solution: If you’re into her, ask her out! And if you’re not, why are you still talking to her? When she’s ready to make her exit from the online dating world, she’ll let you know. ” The scenario: “I can’t stand when I get a message that says ‘any fun weekend plans? ” — Laura, 27The problem..the solution: Sending a generic message—especially one as uninteresting as this—is not what’s going to make you stand out from other guys.
The primary aim of chatting to a women online is to meet her in real life. Once you feel you have messaged back and forth enough to get her feeling attracted and safe, it’s time to move fast and get something in the diary. Here’s why: As a rule, aim to arrange a date within 24 hours of her initial response to your first message, ideally within the first session of back and forth messaging.By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.My buddy thinks you’re real and now we have a bet going. ” — Kristin, 26The problem..the solution: Aside from the fact that this is a pathetic pickup line, it’s certainly never going to work. The scenario: “I went on a few dates with a guy I met online, and I eventually decided we weren’t compatible, so I was honest with him.A lot of women are looking for something serious and have no interest in participating in your immature wager with friends. He refused to accept it and continued to message me listing all the reasons why we’d be great together.” — Ashley, 30The problem..the solution: No matter how strongly you feel about your potential with a woman you meet online, accept the break-up gracefully.