This creates a conflict with many white men, especially those from my generation (age 47) or older.It comes from a mix of racial AND gender stereotyping.In his popular column, readers who ask Visconti tough questions about race/culture, religion, gender, sexual orientation, disability and age can expect smart, direct and disarmingly frank answers.However, Black men are twice as likely to marry outside their race than Black women, and there is a unique, community issue of some Black men explicitly not wanting to date Black women at all, which isn’t as common in other races.Alternatively, have you ever seen a woman with a good man who loves and respects her? Think about the rage you feel living as a Black man in a country that has been and is systematically discriminating against and killing you and your community. If your woman caught you texting three other women after you were just telling her how much you love her and being with her, does that not warrant anger/attitude?If you prefer White women because they allow you to behave any type of way, then own up to the fact that it’s not that Black women have attitudes, it’s that you feel you have the right to disrespect women and suffer no consequences for it. You carry struggles and endure sufferings that no other human being would have the strength to survive, and yet, you’re still here.
The good news is that there are a growing number of white men who know, trust and rely on their black women colleagues.Question: Do all white men think all Black women are hoochie mama, welfare, child bearing, uneducated b******?Answer: No, I don’t think all white men feel that way about Black women.Some of these women use “I don’t need a man” to say: “Hey, we’re not all like that. You’re successful, stable and have enough self-love that you don’t need a man, but you want one, right?If you want to be single forever, then this isn’t for you, but many Black women want a Black man to love and cherish.