Now, it’s a different story if you meet him after work, or you live in the same neighborhood.
Not many men are willing to drive a long distance just to hang out.
Especially if you don’t live in the same neighborhood or town.
If a guy picks you up, or offers to pick you up, it’s a positive sign that it’s a date.
If he pays for your meal, drinks and even the tip, best believe it’s a date.
There’s no need to be picked up so this can also be a sign that it’s a date.[ALSO READ: 5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Be Virtual Friends with Your Man]He pays.
If he invited you and all your friends back to his place for some whiskey and mac n’ cheese, it’s most definitely a non-date. You’ve don’t leave the person’s apartment or dorm room. I am committed to making sure we’re not confusing dates and non-dates here.
More likely scenarios to evolve from a non-date scenario: hookups, FWBs, friendships, work connections.
I don’t have a clue as to how to solve our socio-cultural dating problems. But I sure as hell can clarify the difference between a date and a non-date. Where it gets tricky is when you do multiple things during a date.What does it mean if the guy pays for dinner but suggests you spot the movie?One Friday night, after a three hour dinner date at a nice local restaurant, I discovered that the man who’d taken me out, paid for dinner, walked me to my car and said, “we’ll do it again very soon,” actually meant to text someone else, but texted me on accident. Didn’t I just have three and a half hours of great, intimate conversation? ” Me: “Sure.” And then he called and explained that he meant to text the girl he was dating.